DO YOU WANT TO GO BACK IN TIME?

It is said that time waits for no one. It moves constantly at its own predefined pace. But it is we humans who have to match our pace with it.

Life and time give us many moments in life. But there are times when we don't understand the value of what we have and regret later in life.

If I was given a chance to go back in time then I would definitely want to step back into my college life and reestablish contacts with all the lost friends.

Friendship is one of the most cherished relationship in life. But I 'm guilty to say that I did not value this relation when I should have done it.

God gave me a bunch of good friends but I guess I was immature at that time to handle the relationship. My kiddish and irrational behaviour soon made me lose all the loved friends.

It was very late when I realized what I had lost. Everyone had moved on and it was me who was standing alone.

Soon I realized that they had no place for me in their lives. I still remember those days when I spent the whole day sitting alone in my room.

How much did I regret it that time but still could not gather all the strength to go and get things sorted.

But that was a time I learned a lesson for life. Things are not always the way we want them to be. Every person has some shortcomings and we should accept the way the are. If I'm not perfect then how can I accept any one else to be perfect. I would have been good if I had overlooked their shortcomings and looked at the positive aspects of their personalities.

Now when Time has moved so far and everyone is settled in their lives I simply want an opportunity to step back and relive my old friends and the friendship.

What is your greatest regret in life which if given a chance you would like to rectify?

 

This is an interesting topic to think and write about. I think we all go through stages in life where we get so catch up in a new interest or goal, that good friends fall by the way side and can get totally lost in the shuffle if we are not paying attention. But then again life is a constant shuffle of new places and jobs, and of course new friends.

In many ways I stay connected with many old and dear friends that I have know since childhood. We write letters and send Christmas cards, have phone calls and email once in a while, but have not seen each other in years. It is a two way street in staying in touch and both sides must do their part or as you say the friendships just disappear.

Your first question as stated in your title deals with would I like to go back in time? That demands a two-fold answer, yes and no, in that yes I would like to go back into the time when my grandmother was growing up in the 1890's and see what life was like. However, only if I was able to return to present day and not be stuck in the past forever. Or to go back and change my history of whom I married. The choice of no would only come into play if I had to do this life all over again as it was hard enough the first time around.

My greatest regret is that I did not spend enough time with my grandmother whom I loved dearly in the latter parts of her life. That and spending more time with my mother is the main things I would try to change if given that miracle of turning back time.

 

It is always good to keep learning from the past. The greatest truth is that we value most of our possessions only after we have lost them. Time cannot bring back your grandmother but the lovely moments you spent with her will always be there for you.

 

Thank you for your comment. But so right you are that memories of her come back in a flash just thinking of her and picturing her face in my mind. It is so hard losing those that we love, a true heartbreak, but it is the realities of life as no one lives forever.

 

Very true...losing a loved one is a big harsh reality of life which is hard to cope up with.

 

I had one great fear. That is to cease to exist. Not because I want to live forever, but because there are various things I would like to correct and do all over again. But that fear stopped when my father died a year ago. There are ample times that I would wish to go back and save him from his accident. I would often shut myself in my room and imagine that time can be easily manipulated. As easy as pressing rewind. But time continued to move forward and there is nothing to do. If I would go back in time it will be to tell my dad I love him. But I would always go back at present. If the past did not happen as it was, I would forever fear moving forward and forget to live life at its fullest.

 

I do want to go back in time and specially when my father was with me. It has been 7 years of his death. I want to go back and spend maximum time with him. I want to tell him that I love him a lot. If possible I will also avoid his deadly accident.

 

"If lost on decisions of the future we should summon our past" I heard my professor say.

Turns out he was right , we would all want to go back in time and correct our mistakes. I am not sure we would be able to change , because the choices we make are based on many things, our experience, the environment, our emotional state , the time may be different but am not sure we can change ourselves.

If we went back to the past we would end up making bad choices, or worse erase ourselves out of existence.

 

I'm really sorry for your loss. Father daughter relationship is always special.. At this point I really wish I had the power to send you back.
Take care dear.. You are a brave girl.

 

Jane & Geeta, I understand that feeling of regret in wanting to go back and change that one moment in time that by doing something different, by delaying it by one single act that we might have saved a loved ones life. It is real and bold in our minds we think it could be done.....and yet we know in our hearts that we can't go back nor can we bring them back, and so a sadness lingers.. Long time ago my ex-husband called me on the phone to say he was in a bit of trouble and he was going to go somewhere's else for a little while and I was not to worry. Something in his voice made me think I should call him back and see if I could help. But I dismissed that idea because he always was careful and he did seem to always have something going on that was too deep for my understanding.
So when he up and disappeared I did not worry, but three months later I found out he had died. And that regret stayed with me for a long time. But it seems when the time is up it's up and all we can do is keep going forward until it is our turn. Hugs to the both of you. I know how hard it is to lose parents and cope with that. I am praying for courage and strength for you, and hope you are doing alright.

 

I think you could go back in time, if you could travel at the speed of light in space.
Einstein first came up with this theory, and yeah, it sounds like something he would try to do. I think it would take a incredible machine to do this though?

I guess for now you could just watch "Doctor Who", the science-fiction series about a time-traveling scientist that travels through time and space.

 

I don't. I think it's not worth it and ut's very risky. Most people think that if go back in time to change something from the past, only the future of those who went time travelling will change. Well, that is false because the smallest detail can change the future. If I ever do go back in time, I will be filled with uncertainty of the outcomes and that's a risk I'm not willing to take.

 

Absolutely not, we know what happens in the past and we know that we may be able to do things to alter the future [with good intent] but we don't know the full scope in which the alterations would happen/take effect. So really, it's best we fix our problems now rather than try and do so pre-emptively.
So, in short, there's no reason to travel into the past.

I would like to see how my family is doing in the future, even how I am though...So that'd be interesting.

 

The thread is tricky because of there are actually two questions. The title is a question, "Do you want to go back in time?" but OP made another question at the end of her post that reads, "What is your greatest regret in life which if given a chance you would like to rectify?" which I think is different from the title.

Anyway, for the first question, while being able to go back in time is a very enticing proposal, you have to take into consideration that if ever you go back in time you will definitely alter your present condition. Thus, if you are willing to lose some of your loved ones and forget pieces of your precious memories, then it's probably something you might consider trying. In my case, I'm not willing to lose people I've come to cherish and my memories, so it's definitely a no.

As for the second question, so far my greatest regret in life was not being able to eat out with my father the day before he had a cardiac arrest. When I started working, I made it to a point to treat my family to a restaurant every month. Then that month, I asked my mom if we can eat out that Sunday but she said we couldn't because there was something that needed to be done that day so what I did was I just worked instead. Interestingly, the supposed activity didn't push through, but since I had already confirmed my attendance at work and I didn't want to cancel, I never got the chance to treat them for lunch that day. The next day, early Monday morning, my dad had his cardiac arrest and died within 48 hours.

I really regret it but it doesn't necessary mean that I would want to go back in time to change it. I just have to suck it up and learn from life the hard way.

 

I think I would want to go back in time and try to understand some of my dad's negative actions toward situations. My father is passed away now. My dad's actions were intentionally hurtful to people (depending on the situation). I would just like to know was it the way he was raised, etc? If I could go back in time, maybe I could figure it out and not be so bitter about things now.

 

I really think this is such a strong quote!! I would love to correct mistakes I made in the past. I don't think I would have the life-experience I have now if I tried to fix the mistakes from the past. I have grown from life experiences. I have learned to deal with present situations from the trials/tribulations of the past.

 

Our situations are uncertain whether or not our past can be changed. I think every experience/situation, in our lives, helps us in ways we may not even understand yet. Does this make sense? We just never know what life, itself, can bestow upon us.