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FORGIVENESS

Discussion in 'Philosophy' started by Cjanett, Jun 15, 2018.

  1. Cjanett

    Cjanett New Member

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    "Forgiveness will liberate a soul". It means that forgiving those people who done us wrong will free our heart with the burden of hate and anger. Moreover, there is also a quote saying "To forgive is to forget".However, Forgiving is not easy like throwing a sacks of garbage in a dump, right? Forgiving takes a lot of time and let time heal all the wounds.

    In my own experience, it took me a year and more to totally forgive my ex from cheating on me. We've been married for four years and I don't really know how long he have been cheating. We didn't talk since the day I've caught him. It hurts me to death. He was my first boyfriend. And I can't really imagine how and why he did that to me. Then one day, after two months of separation, he knock on my door. He asking for forgiveness and he wants to be with m again with our daughter. I didn't accept him. Why? even I him so much or even for the sake of the child, I kicked him out because the time I see his face, I remember again all that happen that time. I'm convince to myself that I'm not ready yet to forgive. Just this year, we started to comunicate again for our daughter. I'm happy now because I know I totally let go all the grief in my heart.
     
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    Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive . Forgiveness is an attribute for the strong , the week can never forgive. I believe forgiveness is the best form of love in any relationship. It takes a strong person to say they're sorry and an even stronger person to forgive.
     
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    Psychologist generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of weather they actually deserve your forgiveness.
    Just as important as defining what forgiveness is, though, is understanding what forgiveness is not. Experts who study or teach forgiveness make clear that when you forgive, you do not gloss over or deny the seriousness of an offense against you. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses. Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn't obligate you reconcile with that person who harmed you, release them from legal accountability.
    Instead, forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from corrosive anger. While there is some debate over true forgiveness requires positive feelings toward the offender, experts agree that it at least involves letting go of deeply held negatives feelings. In that way, it empowers you to recognize the pain you suffered without letting that pain define you, enabling you heal and move with your life.
     
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    Forgiveness is a very important act that can start your healing process, and as I said, it starts YOUR healing process. I stress that because many people think that you forgive someone for them to be happy and move on when in fact, you're the one who's moving on. When you forgive someone you allow yourself to leave everything behind and care only about what really matters to you and what makes you happy. But it is true, forgiveness is a kind act that can also help others the start their own healing process, your forgiveness can help them forgive themselves.

    But I do not believe that everyone deserves forgiveness. Only those who really regret their mistakes and are trying to better themselves, and are truly seeking your forgiveness.
     
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    Forgiveness is releasing ourselves from grief, bitterness, and anger. We find it hard to forgive because you are angry and with that, you can't forget the things that they have done wrong to you. With anger, bitterness, and resentment you are like putting yourself in a prison that will put a limit on your freedom and happiness. Whatever you do and wherever you are that anger is there to make you feel heavy. You are like carrying a heavy baggage in your life and that feels very exhausting. You are the only one who can empty the baggage and free your self from being imprisoned with anger. That's why we forgive, it's to free our self. Forgiveness is also a sign of moving on.

    There's this very important person who is a part of my life since I was born who betrayed me. I was very hurt and I have all the reason to be angry. But I choose not to and I choose to forgive that person. Our relationship is not okay right now but I 'm not mad. I accept my situation and what that person has done. Everyone made a mistake even us. I receive forgives to other people, why not I give it too? Like Happiness, forgiveness is a choice and we can create it.
     
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    Forgiveness is so, so important. It's hard for me not to forgive most of the time, which I think is a flaw many of us fail to acknowledge. I would probably forgive my best friend if she stabbed me in a crazed murder attempt even if she didn't apologize, honestly. I know that one day it might hurt me, but I'm prone to extreme guilt and I'm not sure if my lack of forgiveness and impending heavy guilt with a chance of harming myself is worse or better than forgiving too much. Both pose a danger, and I am yet to find a balance in my mind for it.
     
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    It may be easy or not to heal old wounds, it depends on the person who has it. If it’s me who has it, I will not deny the pain nor magnify it. I just have to be willing and resolute in my desire and end the feeling not just numb it.

    I will resort to the higher being who’s ever willing to give interior grace to help me FORGIVE and FORGET. I also have the full belief and trust that time is a natural healer of wounds.
     
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    Forgiveness liberates the soul. Fortunately, in our world is quite difficult for people to forgive others for their offenses. This makes it quite challenging for people to succeed in life in love, relationships, and financially. Human nature tends to hold on to old story, past transgressions, and people find it hard to let go of others mistakes and their own mistakes. Forgiveness relieves the anger, acknowledges life is imperfect, and we would have to recognize life is filled with trial and error. None of us are perfect. All of us learn through failure. This is the only way we learn in life. Forgiving self and forgiving others helps us to let go and move forward in life, instead of dwelling on the past, and hanging on to the drama and trauma. There are some things we cannot change in life. The past is always left behind.
     
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    With great respect to every religion.

    One of the great quality of Muhammad PBUH was that he never took revenge on anyone for personal reasons and always forgave even his staunch enemies A'isha said that God's Messenger never took revenge on his own behalf on anyone She also said that God's Messenger was not unseemly or obscene in his speech, nor was he loud-voiced in the streets, nor did he return evil for evil, but he would forgive and pardon The people of the Quraish rebuked him, taunted and mocked at him, beat him and abused him They tried to kill him and when he escaped to Medinah, they waged many wars against him yet when he entered Makkah victorious with an army of 10,000, he did not take revenge on anyone He forgave all Even his deadliest enemy Abu Sufyan, who fought so many battles, was forgiven, and anyone who stayed in his house was also forgiven.

    The leaders of T'aif, who engaged scoundrels to throw stones at him when he visited that town in order to invite them to Islam, were also forgiven Abdullah bin Ubayy, leader of the hypocrites of Medinah, was forgiven Muhammad PBUH offered his funeral prayer and prayed to God for his forgiveness The Qur'an mentions this incident in these words: "And never (O Muhammad) pray for one of them who dies, nor stand by his grave Lo! They disbelieve in God and His Messenger, and they died while they were evil doers" Abdullah bin Ubayy worked all his life against Muhammad PBUH and Islam and left no stone unturned in bringing him into disrepute and in trying to defeat his mission He withdrew his 300 supporters in the battle of Uhud and almost broke the backbone of the Muslim He had engaged in intrigues and acts of hostility against the Prophet of Islam and the Muslims It was he who raised the incident Of if k through his allies to discredit God's Messenger by spreading scandal about his wife, A'isha RA.


    "An Abyssinian slave, who killed Hamza, Muhammad's PBUH uncle, in the battle of Uhud, and after the victory of Makkah embraced Islam and came to him, was forgiven The wife of Abu Sufyan had cut the chest of Hamza and torn his liver and heart into pieces in the battle of Uhud She quietly came to the Prophet and accepted Islam He recognised her but did not say anything She was so impressed by his magnanimity and stature that she said, "O God's Messenger, no tent was more deserted in my eyes than yours; but today no tent is more lovely in my eyes than yours".

    Ikrama, son of Abu Jahl, was a great enemy of God's Messenger and Islam He ran away after the victory of Makkah and went to Yemen His wife embraced Islam and brought him to the Messenger of God Muhammad PBUH was pleased to see him and greeted him with the words: "O emigrant rider, welcome" Sufwan bin Urnaya, one of the chiefs of Makkah, was also a great enemy of Muhammad PBUH and Islam He sent Umair ibn Wahab, with a promise of reward, to kill Muhammad PBUH When Makkah was conquered, he ran away to Jeddah and hoped to go to Yemen by sea Umair ibn Wahab came to Muhammad PBUH and said, "O God's Messenger! Sufwan ibn Umayya is a chief of his tribe He has run away from fear and will throw himself into the sea" He was given protection When he came back, he requested Muhammad PBUH to give him two months to think He was given four months and then he became a Muslim by his own will.

    Habir ibn al-Aswad was another vicious enemy of Muhammad and of Islam He had inflicted a grievous injury to Zainab, daughter of the Holy Prophet She was pregnant and was emigrating to Medinah The polytheists of Makkah obstructed her and Habbar bin al-Aswad intentionally threw her down from the camel She was badly hurt and had a miscarriage He had committed many other crimes as well He wanted to run away to Persia but then he came to Muhammad, who forgave him.

    He was all for forgiveness and no amount of crime or aggression against him was too great to be forgiven by him He was the complete example of forgiveness and kindness, as mentioned in the following verse of the Qur'an:

    "Keep to forgiveness (O Muhammad), and enjoin kindness, and turn away from the ignorant"

    [Qur'aan 7:199]

    He always repelled evil with the good of forgiveness and kind behaviour, for, in his view, an antidote was better than poison He believed and practiced the precept that love could foil hatred and aggression could be won over by forgiveness He overcame the ignorance of the people with the knowledge of Islam, and the folly and evil of the people with his kind and forgiving treatment With his forgiveness, he freed people from the bondage of sin and crime, and also made them great friends of Islam.
     
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    The best forgiveness quote I've come across is the one by Nelson Mandela, he says "Forgiveness is freeing a prisoner, just to realize that prisoner is you".

    It captures aptly the importance of forgiveness. Unforgiveness is a mess, when you're unforgiven, you hold people down; and, when you hold people down you too stay down
     
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    Why spouses or partners cheat is not because they do not love their better halts. In fact they love them but men are adventurous and are easily attracted to the physical appearance of the opposite sex. Sometimes the pull is so strong that they end up cheating.

    We have to learn to forgive and forget. Forgiving heals your heart.
     
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    To forgive a person is not a simple feat. The ability of a person to forgive tests the strength of not their body but of their soul. The reason for why vengeance is so prominent in a human beings heart and why it is forgive someone for their hateful actions is due to a weak soul. If one forgives someone who has offended them, they are afraid that the forgiveness which was given to the other person would not have been taken with gratitude. This explains the reason for why it is so hard to forgive someone because we are all fearful of being taken advantage of. Thus in order to forgive someone, one must lose the fear of being taken advantage of and give the other person another chance. And once a person loses that fear, they will develop a strong soul, immune to the bullets of fear, vengeance, and other hateful factors in a human being. Once this occurs, the soul could enjoy the pleasures of happiness and joy as they have nothing to fear and hate.
     
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    Forgiveness which literaly means to let go.Forgiving someone who harmed you is not easy.But forgiving will give you peace of mind and will free your heart from hatred.When we hate someone its not the person who will suffer,it is us who hate them.Let us not be a prisoner of what we feel.Forgiving will make us free.
     
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    I believe it is possible to forgive. Our God is the God of forgiveness. Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. Vengeance is mine says the Lord. Surrender your hurt feelings to the Lord.

    We must learn to let go of our grudges and bitterness. The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. You will feel free of anger if you forgive.

    Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. Forgiveness helps you go on to the next chapter of your life. We are encouraged in the Bible to forgive. It is because God has also forgiven us.
     

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