What do you think a parent should do so their kid wont get bullied?

Growing up is a huge suffering for me because I am always bullied at school by both classmates and teachers. You can imagine how scarred for life I was because of the way maltreated me. I don’t know what is wrong with me and why people see me as a target but I realized it may have something do with some disorders I am diagnosed with. I have Aspergers, Social Anxiety disorder and Learning disorder. People always find me different and weird and it turned me into a center of jokes, pranks and other cruelties you can think of.

I do want to be a father but I am afraid my kids will suffer the same fate as I am. Homeschooling is something I consider so my future son or daughter won’t experience from cruelties of this world. There are people though who said it will make kids anti-social but I met people who are homeschooled and they were the opposite of anti-social. So how do you think bullying in schools can be stopped?

 

There are probably two things you should do. Teach kids how to defend themselves against physical bullying and tell them that words don't matter that much. If you are worried that your kid is different, I think the most important thing you can do is make sure that he knows how to act in social settings and has friends he can turn to in school. Those are pretty much the only ways I can think of, just have to make sure your kid isn't too different from the rest of them, in a weird way. Eccentric is okay, but if he doesn't know how to talk with other people, he will be in trouble.

 

This is simple! Talk to your kids be honest and real with them, let your kids know that their are bad kids out there and that they have a bad life. Their some kids that parents beat them, are into drugs, are struggling financially, and all these things make other kids become angry and selfish. They don't have someone to be their to guide them and help them see that bullying isn't the way out. Listen to your kids when they speak to you about the funny, wierd, sad, crazy things that happen, they talk, or hear in school all these things matter. they are important even if you don't think. Everything that starts good can end up bad if not properly structured.

 

I think getting involved as much as possible in your child's school and after school activities is a great way to make sure these things don't happen. The other children may be less likely to target your child knowing their parents are present .

 

I think that you should teach him to stand up for himself/herself.Standing up for oneself doesn't have to be aggressive and full of anger.
I will teach my kids that there are kids in the world who did not grow up with the necessary love and attention and therefore the way they behave reflects a lack of humanity and deep issues.
The best way to deal with bullies is to instill an unwavering confidence in your child.Therefore,everytime they try to bully him,he will turn their back on them,because he knows who he is and what those bullies say does not matter.
Still,if the abuse keeps getting worse and/or physical I would suggest talking to the parents of the bully.If that does not work ,then talking to the principal should be the ultimate step.

 

Elaine94 I believe in every word that was said, I believe that children should be taught how to stand up for themselves. I make it a priority to have casual chats with my children either when we are doing chores or riding in the car together as they tend to be more open in these instances. I instilled in them to be strong individuals which helps them to use sound judgement whenever problem arises while they are away from home. Children should be taught to let their no be no, and their yes be yes; this helps them to stand tall when faced with opposition.

 

Bullying is really a society's problems even before. I can still remember when I used to be bullied before by my big classmates and other strangers that are older than me. They used to say unappropriate and hurtful words and even leads to physical harm. In order for bullied kids to stop bullying against them then they should learn to stand for their ownselves. They cannot always depend to other people or their parents to save them from this bully. I have stood for myself when I was being bullied before and that ended my agony.

 

I don't know about you, but I know about me and I can tell you my story if that is all right. I was bullied starting in the 3rd grade by this girl and it continued until the 5th grade. When I got into middle school I was bullied again and I still don't know the exact reason behind it to this day. I remember when the kids were picking on me they called me fat, stuck up, they picked on my neck because it was darker than the rest of me and other random stuff. I told my parents that the girls at school picked on me and my mom's favorite answer to those complaints were "Beat they ass!" Now, I am not a confrontational person and conflict is something I try to avoid at all costs. So I never beat anybody's ass. When I went to middle school I wasn't picked on by that same girl anymore I was picked on by a whole new breed of people and I learned later that the people I trusted in middle school were faker than a three dollar bill and were never to be trusted with personal information about anything.

My parents would continually tell me during those bullying years that I was picked on to be picked out or the girls and boys picked on me because I was pretty or because they secretly wanted me. I thought that was a reasonable excuse but a parent can never really know why their child is picked on when they're not there to see it themselves or to ask questions. The parent catches the tail end of the discussion or is the last resort when physical violence is eminent.

By the time I got to high school I was still nervous and shy but I had a nasty attitude. I had been picked on so long that I thought I had to be on the same level as the people who were bullying me. I had to put on armor when I went to school and had to be harder than I was. I thought I had to act nasty, curse at people, insult them, or ridicule that person in public to gain respect from my peers and that was the wrong way to go. When I got to high school I wasn't in the same classes as those people who bullied me. They were taking basic classes and I was taking Advanced classes and that eliminated contact with them for good. While I was in high school I was picked on by senior girls because either I pissed them off for running off at the mouth or they pissed me off either way it was toxic. So my sophomore year on was bliss after they graduated. Of course I still had problems. Some guy stole my phone and made a bomb threat and the police wanted to arrest me, some kid tried to rob me for the lollipops and money that was in the bag I was selling for a school club, I didn't wear the best clothes so I'm sure the girls picked on me behind my back and I was cool with that.

In high school I became known for my smarts in my advanced classes rather than my nasty attitude and that won me respect. It was nice having people who talked shit about you come and ask you for help with their work because they're failing. The late part of high school was great for me.

If I had one piece of advice to give to you, that you would give to your child it would be to stay true to yourself. Never stop doing what is right, and never let bullies bring you down to their level because they see something in you that they want and can't have. Tell your child to stand up for himself, not in a nasty way but to make some boundaries. Tell your child that people will talk about them all the days of their life. Some talk will be good, some bad and some ugly; but it will be that way until the day that they die. Tell your child that they are loved and no matter what anybody says they are appreciated and special and have a talent that will benefit society. Look at me. I graduated from high school in June went to college in August with scholarship money and graduated with a Bachelor of Science. I can get into medical school to become a doctor or become a nurse or a science teacher in middle or high school. The doors in the medical field are open for me, while the girls that I went to school with who are 23 and 24 now are popping out babies with possibly no college degree and their beauty and shape that they loved so much is gone and some of them are fat, sagging and raising 2-4 children. So, as a parent you tell your child to keep his or her head up and never let the circumstances that they are in deter them from success. I made it and so can many others. I hope this helps.