What is Love?

Love has been defined endlessly through various figures of speech. When we are confronted with such question we often reply through metaphors. But what is really love? How can love be defined if they say love is a mystery? If love is God and God is love, therefore whatever we do with love is Good.

 

“What is love” must the one of the most difficult questions of all time. Mainly because love will be different for every person. Everyone experiences love differently and therefore gives it an unique definition. So, I don’t think love can be defined. At least not generally. I do think everyone can define love for him- or herself. This definition contributes to the uniqueness of each person.

I also think people can connect over different definitions of love or even change them over the course of their life. For example, if someone has had an abusive childhood there is a probable chance that their idea of love has been affected by that. When they meet someone who knows how to love someone without being abusive the person can change their definition of love.

 

Love to something, whether it be a romantic love, a love of God, a love of country, etc. is a small example of what love really is. Love can be a lot of things to many different people, but to answer what it is, we have to think more broadly.
Love is an intense feeling/emotion. The opposite is to hate. Both can be a person's driving force and biggest motivation. When we do something with love, we do it with the intention of lifting up ourselves and others. When we do something with hate or malice, we do so with the intention of dragging others (or less often ourselves) down. The reality is often we intend the consequences for others, and impose them on ourselves. Doing hateful things will make you a hateful person. Doing things with love with make you a loving person.

 

Love is a feeling or emotion that attaches you to someone through an affection. I have heard many times that love can't be defined, but that is not true because love is a feeling that feels unique but isn't described in words, instead it is described by the heart. It is good love someone, but love can also be weaponized and dangerous like using it to take an advantage of someone. At last, love is an undescribable feeling of affection to someone else. ❤️

 

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The world is sick for a surprisingly modest-sounding reason: we don’t understand love and yet we are rather convinced that we do. We talk a lot of love of course, but generally in terms of a dizzying rapture lasting a few months focused on someone’s beauty, intelligence, and strength
Here would be seven possible ingredients on what Love is:

CHARITY Love means, above anything else, benevolence and gentleness towards what is failed, disgraced, broken, unappealing, angry, and foul in other people and in ourselves. Love isn’t about admiration for strength, it’s about directing sympathy in a most unexpected direction: at what is messed up, lost and in pieces, and at what we might hate, resent and be frightened of. Anyone can express an interest in perfection,
to love is to devote an active charity towards the mistakes and aberrations. One day, we will all require the charity of others. In one way or another, we’ll be on our knees and we will need people to look past our evident failings in a tender search for our deeply hidden merits.

IMAGINATION To love with imagination is to look beneath the surface where there may be rage, cynicism, brittleness, or transgression – and to picture the suffering and pain that got a person to this place. To love with imagination is to fill in the better reasons why others are behaving as they do. Imaginative love knows that we are all, somewhere, desperate: it seeks out that desperation and treats it with sorrowful gentleness.

KINDNESS There are so many fighters for social justice, so many people determined to make a better world. They denounce their enemies and feel certain of their cause, but along the way, they have a fateful habit of forgetting to be kind. In their denunciations of the evils of others, there is precious little mercy, humility, tenderness or grace. It is not enough to be right or just, to be kind is to know that everyone, even sinners, and in a way, especially sinners, deserve ongoing sympathy and mercy. It is never simply because someone is wrong that we have any right to cease showing them the greatest kindness.

FORGIVENESS To forgive is to know that we are, in our own way, as guilty as the next person. Given what we all are, we have no option but to cut each other slack. Of course, we have failed and been hasty and less than admirable. But that is no reason forever to withhold love. We learn to forgive when we are no longer self-righteous, that is, when we’re brave enough to fathom the darker sections of our own hearts.

LOYALTY To love means being loyal to people (this could be ourselves) even though the crowd no longer agrees. Outside the mob may be jeering, but we continue on the same side, with steadfastness and an unbudgeable resilient faith.

GENEROSITY Love overflows. It isn’t about loving just one person, it encompasses the love of someone you have just met, of strangers in another land, of the earth, of plants, weevils, house bats, and a moth by the window who might be dead by nightfall.

PATIENCE We want others to meet our hopes right now. But true love means giving people the time to mature and develop; to go wrong, to wander in another direction, and not to shout at them but to give them every chance to grow, at their own pace, towards their better selves. If we can believe wholeheartedly in some of the above, it won’t matter who we vote for or what our cause is, we can count as part of what is helping. We should be almost done with Romantic love by now. We should be setting our sights on the challenge of this sort of love. Yet it’s not surprising if we’re still only at the beginning, we’re just starting on the path to being human.

Love is a skill that we can learn. Our Relationships book calmly guides us with calm and charm through the key issues of
relationships to ensure that success in love need not be a matter of good luck.​

 

Well, this has been an enigma for a long time for many of us. To some, its the little things we do for another person, to others its commitment to the ones we love and to some, it may be a sacrifice of great lengths. I guess, it can be however you want to define it for yourself.

However, you cannot place your heart and hopes without looking out for your own well being. Love yourself first and be kind to others. Good things take time and you have to be patient.