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The Problem With Child Punishment

Discussion in 'Philosophy' started by Maria Crisanta, Oct 3, 2017.

  1. Maria Crisanta

    Maria Crisanta New Member

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    There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to discipline your child, but at times you're actually doing more bad than good. The signs won't be obvious at first. It will only become visible as the child grows older, and then you start wondering where the kid got those habits.

    When you punish a child for doing something wrong, you are not teaching him the value of right and wrong. Rather, you're teaching him that when bad people are punished while good people are rewarded. In the long run, this can give your kid a habit of revenge. If someone does something he doesn't like to him, instinct will tell him that this guy deserves to be punished. The kid then starts plotting ways on how he can take his revenge. I don't want to get into what goes on into the kid's mind, but you know that worst scenarios this could lead to killing, and those sorts of things.

    On the other side of the coin, you'll also teach your kid that when you do good things, you'll be rewarded. This seems pretty positive. However, you know that people don't always get what they want. So, how can this result to undesired behavior? Let me give you an example. Say that your kid is already out from college and is already working in a big company. Since he has been raised to always do a good job, that's exactly what he does at the office.

    Then all of a sudden, it was time to promote employees, and unfortunately, he didn't make the cut. When this happens, the kid will either hate the other person who is promoted or the boss, or worse, the kid may even hate both.

    The kid will then again start plotting his revenge, and again, we have no idea what goes on in a person's head, but we know the possibility is endless.
     
  2. Liz Wangare

    Liz Wangare New Member

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    Yesterday in one of the social pages a parent expressed her disappointment after a shopping experience the son.She could not afford a certain toy her kid wanted triggering the kid to throw himself on the ground. He started rolling all over crying and yelling really making her look bad and causing a lot of chaos around. Unfortunately, other parents in the group really mocked her and gave her lectures on how to discipline a child.

    And after going through the comments I realised the reality of life everyone pretends and talks about how perfect they are in parenthood if it is another child at fault. But the truth is parenthood is also a life learning experience and there is no child who comes with a manual on how to manage him or her. And true to that every child his different even siblings really differ a lot.And that makes punishing of a child a learning experience too.

    For those who are Christians under a scripture which boldly states " Spare the rod and spoil the child. " Meaning it is Biblical to punish a child. But now the issue is how do you discipline the child. Is it of help to the child or torture to the child. And this is something all parents have to decide in the normal raising of a child.

    Where I come from our grandparents really used to take punishment really seriously and our parents used to narrate to us from been canned to missing meals others sleeping outside, it was really close to brutality but luckily as Africa is evolving things are changing and some of this practices are slowly remaining to be a thing of the past . Few places still practise this kind of punishments but many people have realised this really does not help but they are others ways to punish a child and still remain in command and shape up a brighter future and an obedient child.
     
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  3. jaymish

    jaymish New Member

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    It would depend on the kind of punishment. Slapping or whipping your child is a no-no.You are the adult here. Imagine a man twice your size slapping you, that's bullying. That’s actual assault. Thankfully in my country, corporal punishment is against the law.

    Other punishments like putting your child in the naughty corner, grounding them or denying them certain privileges are debatable. It would depend on the situation and how often you punish your child.If punishment is a regular practice the child won’t listen. If you do it once in a while, the child may learn that they are crossing certain boundaries.

    There studies that have shown that if a company's rules are strict, the employees just find certain ways to circumvent them and don’t follow them. The rules or policies don't increase productivity.

    I would argue because you are the parent, understand your child and learn how to talk to them in a way that they will listen to you. Depending on how young, you can punish them but not too often and make it count.
     

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