What is your philosophy of a relationship?

What do you think about relationships? Do you prefer a sexual relationship or casual dating?

 

Oh c'mon... Casual dates are more exciting than sex to satisfy. First of all, we need to meet our lover properly. You have to know that female mind is very different than male mind. To be honest, we are very sentimental and your admiration makes us beloved. There is no more wonderful than a wife or girl waiting for you with a dinner. You wouldn't find your lover if you were thinking only about sex during a date. Although you can be satisfied, you will never get a help from the nearest person of your life.

 

Philosophy of a relationship is a very complex matter. It varies from person to person. Philosophy is a belief or what you believe in. What is my philosophy about relationship might be completely different than other individual or even my siblings. For me philosophy of a relationship is based on trust and mutual respect. It's about caring for each other, loving and supporting one another not only in good times but also in difficult times. It's about respecting each other, trusting each other blindly and loving each other selflessly.

Foundation of any relationship is trust and where the foundation is weak that relationship does not succeed or flourish. Other key elements of a blooming relationship are love, understanding, caring, faith, sacrifice and being each other's best friends. Spending time with each other, not hiding or lying to each other, communicating with each other, not having ego, understanding each other's needs and wishes is very important aspect of any healthy relationship. Relationship is a very difficult and most complex issue in today's times.

 

Relationships aren't that difficult. Lighten up, laugh, open your heart, trust, fight fair, and admit when you're wrong. We all have our quirks, insecurities, and faults. While I am working on them, I fully disclose that I can be a pompous ass, insensitive (aspergers), and sometimes I need a gentle reminder to give you a hug. But I do love very deeply; and I'm told it's an all-consuming, soul-touching love.. or something.

As far as my preferred relationship type? My wife and I have an open relationship. We believe that trust is more important than monogamy. So, I'm a fan of both - I like the kinky, mind-blowing, spontaneous, I-can't-believe-that-just-happened sexual experience as well as the deep, meaningful, loving, my-life-is-only-complete-with-you-in-it relationship.

 

This is the first time I have seen someone in an open relationship. I have to say "well done". I often talked about an open relationship with my friends and all but they kept making me feel like I was insane. To me, it is better to have an open relationship and be happy than to assume a monogamous relationship and cheat.

Thank you so much for this comment. I really appreciate it.

 

@Akoria - Thank you! I've found much the same response - that I'm insane, a misogynist, afraid of commitment, etc., etc., etc. I agree wholeheartedly - when you look at the statistics that marital infidelity is over 55%, having an open relationship is just honest.

You're definitely not alone.

 

Being committed to someone is not that easy, but if you have already decided to spend the rest of your life to that person then there is no problem committing to him/her. Committing only makes it difficult when you are still exploring your chances to meet someone more interesting and that can fulfill your greatest desires with regards to being in a relationship. My philosophy in relationships is that," There is no such thing as perfect relationship because it is for you to decide to make a certain relationship a perfect one as you have imagined it to be".

 

There in no any complex philosophy about relationships, because what matters most inside a relationship is the openness of each other and the goal of being truly as one. Every thoughts, emotions, memories, experiences and such(whether they are good or bad) must be openly shared, because this is the only time where a true connection is being built between the both of you, and thus, this will bind you to become as one.

I think one of the major failures of many relationships is, "They do not aim to become one". What the Bible says in Matthew 19:5 is definitely true, and it is written, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh". Because in able to become one you must have trust, patience, respect, deep understanding, empathy, goodness, kindness, selflessness and true love.

I am not saying that my relationship with my fiancee is perfect. We still do fight sometimes, there are still times of misunderstanding, times that we still do mistakes and failures, and I believe that this cannot be avoided within the boundaries of a relationship because these are the spices of life which makes the two different links become more stronger. We do not have a perfect relationship but our relationship forgives, forgets, understands and especially God is the center of it that is why there are no worries.

 

There is a lot going on in today's generation where relationship is concerned. My philosophy is "Expect the Unexpected". Too often I have seen where couples start off good and one person in that relationship did something unforgivable.I think if you prepare yourself for not just the best but also the worst then there will be little but no disappointments because you were already expecting it.

 

Don't fix it if it is not broken.
I think that many people try to overcompensate in a relationship,maybe due to insecurities or it's in their nature and this makes them look needy and not very desirable.My most fulfilling relationships have been with honest ,kind and caring people but who did not try and be over- caring and over the top with kindness when there were times that I did not reciprocate their love.Instead,they understood that I need my time to work on my issues and that I needed to move at my own pace in life and love.
I also believe that being a good listener and trying to understand what the other person is trying to say ,instead of thinking of a fast reply , is the most effective form of communication.

 

The success of any relationship depends upon the strength of that relationship and the strength is built on the 4 pillars of trust, love, proper understanding and support. Anyone who truly believes in relationship should definitely consider these points in order to maintain the same. Every relationship is tested by good and bad times. We all have experienced the same at one or the other stage of life. Strong relationships always overcome and stand apart, no matter what situation they face in life.

 

Sexual relationship and casual dating are much the same. It is only in the relationship wherein two individuals are exclusive for each other. I don't think that one is better among the two. I always believed on the idea that relationship should not only be sexual, but there will be commitment and genuine emotion involve. Relationships should not be only for the sexual or physical benefit, but for a deeper purpose which is to love each other for a lifetime if possible.

 

After so many heartaches and pain I think I'm quite capable to give my honest opinion on the matter. Life is all about relating with people and learning from the mistakes we make with them, but the important thing is that relationships are aim to build us and make us better human being over time, they are not to fill a void in our lives but to teach valuable lessons.

 

I've learned that the most important thing before starting a (serious) relationship is to love and understand yourself first. Don't expect your partner to make you happy all the time, because you'll get disappointed. When you're happy with yourself, your partner will doubles you happiness. But when you're unhappy, relationships will only make you more miserable most of the time, because building a healthy relationship is tough, it needs work and it is not an easy thing. Also, you understand yourself, you will know what you need and want in a relationship.

 

As of the moment, I am already in my 30's and still single. I admit that I did have crushes on several girls in the past, but I was never a playboy or anything like that. I never treated relationships that seriously, which is why I have been a loner all my life. Nowadays, I prefer to keep my relationships to just a few people. Of course, my relationships aren't necessarily romantic, but it's more of a companionship than anything else. My crushes lasted for a few fleeting moments, but at the end of the day I am so glad to be single, as I do not have to worry about another person, what will I feed her, what will I give her, etc. Being in a relationship transcends beyond sexual or casual love.

 

My guiding principles in life or shall I say my philosophy in life as far as relationship is concerned, is simply summarized in this phrase: "Give and take relationship". I have been married for 42 years now and my wife and I are happily living in such long of marriage. What my wife has given me considering my needs, I reciprocate it by making her happy too by providing what she needs.

We couldn't deny that we have some failures in life. We have for we'r only human beings. We have differences, weaknesses. In short, we're not perfect. However, maintaining the give-and-take relationship everyone of us is doing our respective task.

 

My philosophy on romantic relationships is that they are not necessary in order to have a happy life. From the time I was 16 up until about 6 years ago, I always had a man in my life. I'd get rid of one, another one was right there ready to take his place. I also did not have the luxury of going places or doing things I wanted to without explaining myself or having an escort. The past 6 years I have done whatever I wanted to, and I like it too much to change. Unfortunately, people seem to be judgmental when it comes to other people's social lives. Some people believe that if you aren't married or don't have kids by a certain age then there must be something wrong with you. Those people are toxic and should be avoided at all costs. It seems that our society is conditioned on this type of philosophy, if you call it that. I must be one of the few that buck the system and choose not to care what anyone thinks about my life. As long as I am happy, that's all that matters, and right now not being in a relationship is making me happy.

 

Its depends on which you are comfortable with, but there should be a fair treatment in a relationship to avoid problems, but these kind of relationship is not quite serious for me its like a game, its more on pleasure, i guess a waste of time.

 

I prefer a strong commitment but I also believe when we are young we should experience the dating side of life and play the field a little and be picky. Everyone should know the qualities they are looking for in a mate. I know I wouldn't be comfortable with an open relationship but if it works for someone else, that's great.

 

Neither of the two, it's more easy to love without committing to something. it's just I am more fond having an open relation ships with friends,
hug them,flirt them, dating them without the said commitment as it is really complicated for me.

I am always seeking love, friendly love because i want to freely love everyone.