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Does true love exists or it is merely a fantasy?

Discussion in 'Philosophy' started by Wilderness, Apr 12, 2018.

  1. Wilderness

    Wilderness New Member

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    Being in love is the best feeling to encounter. Even if it is a fantasy, I don't mind fantasizing about it. I love to be in an air castle which is fictional. Regardless of whether we are impatiently waiting for love or completely denying its actuality, naked truth is that we eternally dream about that zone where we can spot it. We may not have hands on it, but definitely, have an appetite for it. We all secretly appreciate it in our hearts that love is not an illusion. It is rare nowadays and this is why most of us are asking evidence to have confidence in its existence.

    We disremember that we are rich sources of love. Why look for it in the outside world? Love exists in every soul who truly believes in its potentiality. We feel that others must demonstrate it to us so that we can build a stronger faith in it. Love cannot become true, unconditional if this is the case scenario. I believe that true love exists. To let it blossom and give orientation to our lives, we need to keep the faith. How do other members over here envision it? Do you people believe in its existence or consider more of it as the one which restricts itself into the fantasy world?
     
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    Am really disappointed to say this @Wilderness but to many it is merely a fantasy. Gone are the days when it was well nurtured and valued. I mean, today people don't get to know each other well; a few days of dating and they are good to go. This behavior leads to relationships consisting of people who barely know each other.
     
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    True love is merely a fantasy. I have never believed in it, since it doesn't sound real. So many people are unhappy since they cannot find their true love or their true love loves somebody else.

    Thus most people waste their youth searching for this fantasy and instead of getting Mr Right they end up with a Mr Almost. I believe that all you have to find is someone whose character, best and worst behaviors you can live with and they can do the same for you.

    If you wait for true love you might actually die waiting since it does not exist. Am not being cynical am just stating facts.
     
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    For me, truly love exist. Maybe some are disappointed with it just because they are expecting true love exist. But on my own perception, I can proudly say true love exists, it may be found on your partner, family, friends, and lastly God. True love doesn't stick in your girlfriend or boyfriend. There are so many ways to feel true love. You may be lucky if you realize it but sad if not. Maybe your family loves you very much but it seems you do not appreciate it because you are hoping a true love from your partner. Thanks!
     
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    This is a really interesting topic. Today it's really hard to come across true love. What is true love though? Or is it us that has unrealistic expectations or definition when it comes to love.
     
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    I don't understand why people say that true love is just a fantasy. They don't understand what true love is. It does not only exist in couples but with friends and family as well. People who don't believe in true love are the hardest to love for they don't see how love moves and what are a different way of loving a person or any living things. When someone gives you pure kindness --that's love. When someone stays with you without asking something in return--that's love.

    A true love is not a feeling; it's an act of kindness without any hidden negative intention. Feelings are not constants, it changes from time to time, but love will always remain. That's the mistake of people they think love as a feeling. The passionate feeling will never become true love unless you have not shown any kindness, support, care, understanding, patience and etc to your partner. True love exists guys, you are just too selfish to give to other people. You don't love when you know you can't gain love back.
     
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    Personally, I disagree with you @billwaf . Sure, there are some people who don't do that, but that's been the case forever. There always have (and always will be) both people who fall in love after being friends and work at their relationship, as well as people who lust after each other and get married without much thought. Even Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen, which was written at the start of the 1800s, includes both kinds of couples. Mr. Darcy has to work to win Elizabeth's heart, and they fall in love, then get married, but only after being friends first. Lydia, on the other hand, hears of a rich guy and immediately tries to elope with him, only for him to leave her.

    I believe that you attract the kind of person you are, and that you seek. If you think that people are too "easy" or aren't willing to work on relationships, evaluate your own actions. Do you let people into your life too quickly? Are you willing to date someone without getting to know them first? Do you go for people who fit your list of negative qualities?

    True love exists only if you're willing to work for it. Relationships work because of work that you put in, whether it's making an effort to understand your partner or taking a little extra time to make them feel loved. I believe in love, and I'm so grateful to have found it, but I know I'll lose it if I don't work to keep it.
     
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    True love is definitely a real thing, but I agree it is rare and hard to find. One should definitely cherish it if they do.

    I don't necessarily believe there is someone out there for everyone though. There are over 7.5 billion people in the world, but all are different in one way or another, and not everyone has a compatible match. Some people don't even want one.

    However, if you do find someone that you fall in love with completely, who makes you whole and who you enjoy being with above all, you should appreciate it and never take it for granted.
     
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    I believe true love is a commitment between two or more people to help and care for each other through anything. It's a bond that is based on friendship and not necessarily sexual.

    I do believe it is real and not simply fantasy. Before you canfind a partner you need to live yourself. That's where we struggle to find love. So many do not live themselves enough to love or be loved by another.
     
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    I believe true love exist. True love is having self-worth, self-respect, self-dignity, and self-love. When you find your own value, it's easy to love others. You have to become true love yourself. When you find this with yourself, it's easy to enjoy relationships with other people. True love is accepting yourself and others at the same time. This is quite difficult to learn. This takes a lot of deep inner work, leaving the past behind, and choosing love over a fear-based reality.
     
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    This is a very interesting question and I think it is something that has always disturbed the minds of all human beings.

    I believe that first, we should try to define what is love and I am sure that we could not all define it in the same way, therefore, the fact that "true love" exists or does not exist, will depend on what we understand as LOVE.

    Starting from this approach, perhaps for some, there is true love and for others, it will be a total fantasy. I do believe that it exists.

    As a stimulus to continue investigating the subject, I further comment that there are 4 types of love:

    1.- Family love (Filio).
    2.- The love of friends or between human beings (Agape).
    3.- The love of couples (Eros).
    4. -The love for material things.
     
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    True love exists because we are here in the world for the purpose of loving one another. Our love symbolizes everything, Love for our family, friends, and everything. It is not merely about relationship with your partner, but it tackles a lot. Love is wide. Love is total. Love is sacred. Love is disinterested in giving yourself to one another. Therefore, love is unconditional.
     
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    I’ll be talking about your true love in relationships, I’m aware of the presence of true love in friendship and family.

    Coming from an imperfect family, I used to think true love was a fantasy. I didn’t believe that two souls could have that intense feeling for each other, and be happy forever. Many boys also showed me how love, to them, is just a game. So, I stopped searching for the true love.

    But it came to me, unexpectedly, someone who loved me unconditionally and healed me from the trauma. Someone who taught me that it was alright to be paranoid; someone who taught me out of it. True love is real and as long as you’re patient, it’ll come to you.
     
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    The unconditional love of the parents towards their children is an example of true love. But when it comes to romanticism, true love exists when a person learns to love themselves and still decided to stay beside their partner regardless of their flaws. The real fantasy in a romantic relationship is the person's belief that a 'right person' exists for him/her. We are born imperfect and expecting flawed people to fix us would lead to disappointment. I think loving our own blemishes is a great example of romantic true love.
     
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    Love is real. It is the most affectionate feeling that a human feels for another. Love actually diffuses most of the other feelings. It may make one to be almost deaf and blind.

    Love can easily catapult into hate. It happens wh
    Love is a very strong four-letter word that carries with it very strong feelings of affection. A person in love feels to be on top of the world. They become partially blind and deaf.

    Love can easily turn to hate. This happens when there is cheating and faithfulness by the other partner.
     
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    I believe true love does exist. But not as it is often perceived. What do I mean by this? Well, "love" is an extremely detrimental word to human existence, I don't think we can live without it. I also think it is entirely subjective, so it isn't about a "true" love necessarily. I've always thought of true love to be something you experience when you find someone or something, that you can say that you truly and wholly love. That does not mean true love is perfect, but what is?

    True love exists, but it is not the fantasy that it is often made out to be by media and the film industry.

    People are not perfect, love is a term created by humans, therefore love is not perfect. It is simply the transitive property. (A = B, B = C, therefore A = C).
     
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    Am amazed at this. You praise 'love' and doubt whether it is perfect. How come?

    Love can be the most perfect thing on land. It brings a certain bliss and a sort of utopia. You do not want to part from what you cherish.
     
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    People, in general, develop animosity towards the entirety of one thing simply because it is flawed. I do not believe that because love is flawed that it is incapable of being true. I've felt love towards people before and it has done a number on me before, but that doesn't mean that there is love left for me to give, that there isn't love left for me to find.

    In simplicity, many believe that true love is a fantasy simply because they, like I, have seen the flaws in love itself. That often times love is false, and you've been lead astray. But, in order to appeal to those people, I believe it is important to make sure they know you are the same, in a way. Help them find a way to see that love can be true, just as much as it can be false.
     
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    When two people love each other, it is a wonderful thing. The longer you can sustain the initial romantic part, the better. When two people really have the chance to get to know each other and to consummate after a long drawn out romantic phase, this is a wonderful thing.
    This serves as wonderful memories for you. For although life is bitter sweet, there is nothing like looking back over the ocean of your life and being able to see the beauty of the moments.
     

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