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Should couples share the same religious beliefs?

Discussion in 'Religion & Spirituality' started by KimC, Jul 3, 2019.

  1. KimC

    KimC New Member

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    I certainly believe in God and the Holy Bible. I'm Baptist affiliated, I believe in the Holy Trinity, and I attend church regularly. Personally, my husband and I don't have the same beliefs. He believes in God, not sure if he believes in the Holy Trinity, but he despises church. The difference in our beliefs has caused problems on more than one occasion. Do you believe that couples should share the same religious beliefs?
     
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    It depends, a Muslim female is actually forbidden to marry a non-muslim man. According to the religion itself

    I'm currently visiting a country where marriage between different religions is illegal.

    I look at religions as a world view. Just like a political ideology or whatever else. Would a civil rights activist marry a white supermacist? The world views are too different, an inherent friction between the two adherents. This is an extreme example obviously.

    If you have a religion in which non-believers burn in hell for all eternity, does it make sense to marry such a transgressor? I think these thoughts are damaging of course.
     
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    It totally depends upon the society you are living in. Because there are some countries or some civilizations believe that both husband and wife have to share the same religion as well as religious things. But in some cases, if you will look over modern society, then there are some couples are against these types of thoughts. Some couples are thinking that marriage is just a contract but some are thinking that marriage is a bond of love, care, and sacrifice.
     
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    No, I don't think so. Religious beliefs are personal so one has every right to differ from the other. One should not force his/her beliefs on his/her spouse, especially when they both belong to different religions. It's a great equation if a couple share same religious beliefs. Couple's mutual understanding and respect are the base of the relation even if they've different beliefs.
     
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    In my opinion I think couples should have religious similarities. I think the couple should either both believe in God or neither believe in God. If one of the significant others believes in God and the other doesn’t I do not believe this relationship could be a long lasting, healthy one.

    I am a strong believer in God. I know for a fact that if my significant other did not at least believe in God I would not be able to have a relationship with them. I think that if my significant other was Jewish that would be okay. They believe in God, but might worship him differently than I do.

    I think a couple does not need to share the same religion, but at least share the same belief in God
     
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    I think it totally depends on the individuals! Religion and spiritually is a very important factor in some people's lives, while nonexistent in others. Both people would have to be okay with being in a relationship with someone with different beliefs. That could be a deal breaker to someone and absolutely fine for another.
     
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    They don't need to have the same religious beliefs, but it doesn't hurt. I can certainly see how it would cause problems between you two. However, I think you both need to learn to respect the other's beliefs. A relationship is about respecting the other person's differences; respect is necessary for a long-lived relationship.

    In a relationship, you should respect the other person and their beliefs. I do not think problems should come from something as deep as spirituality. It is a personal choice of what to belief in; don't cause problems over it.
     
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    Most religions have rules about marrying someone in the same religion. Also, raising children with two separate beliefs may be difficult. For example, a child says "Mommy, how come only Daddy gets to do Christmas?"
     
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    In my opinion, having the same religious foundation (or else a very similar one) is extremely important in a relationship if religion is important to at least one of the individuals. Otherwise, there is going to be a constant clash of beliefs and ideals that can ultimately ruin the entire relationship. Religion touches so many facets of life: the church, the household, the government, etc. It's not just "do we go to church every Sunday", "do we celebrate Christmas" or "how do we raise the children" that will become potential arguments/discussions. Every little part of your life could become a struggle if your foundation is not solid and you are not united.
     
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    It is definitely much easier to be married to someone of the same religious background. That is mainly because you are less likely to disagree on your most important core beliefs.

    If you are married to someone with different beliefs it is possible to have a great and rewarding marriage. Both of you will need to be willing to compromise and support the other in their religion though. Otherwise you will get stuck going in circles in religious disagreements.

    When it comes to teaching kids the best way to go about doing it is to first decide what religion you want to teach them. If you and your spouse can’t decide then I suggest teaching both religions and keying your kids choose on their own.

    Good luck!
     
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    As a couple, they don't need anyone to tell them they should share the same religious beliefs as it is said in the holy Bible that a man shall leave his parent, join to a woman to became one. Considering this, it is mandatory they share same religious beliefs because they are one.
     
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    A couple should share the same religious beliefs. If one is a follower of Jesus who believes in trinity while the other one only believes in God, would they consider Christmas a special holiday? If one prays to Jesus, would his/her partner believe that the prayer will be answered? If one celebrates Christmas would his/her partner support him/her when it is against in their beliefs? Would you tolerate your partner's beliefs and deeds when it is against in your beliefs? Would a family be united if they dont share the same beliefs? Having the same beliefs can lead to a peaceful living. I encourage every couple to settle your religious matters before marrying. Different beliefs leads to misunderstanding. Hence marriage is a sacred thing, and should be done by a couple who will become one through marriage, they should share the same beliefs in order to be called as one.
     
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    I think its great when married people have the same religion. But I don't beleive that should neccessarly happen, if they decide that it should'nt be of any problem. Love is all about making choices. Ìf they choose to live together despite their differences, I don't see any problem. I understand what you said Jenien, but like I said they can ignore all the things that make them different from eachother and focus on the things they have in common.
     

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